Three Secrets to Building Self Confidence
Perhaps one of the hardest things to teach a person is self-confidence. This may be shocking but if you truly look at what self-confidence is and what it can do to a person, you will understand that some people may appear to have self-confidence but they don’t really have it. Other people are so good at faking that they have it that they seem to achieve the biggest of its promises - success. Sooner or later though, when their lack of self confidence rears its ugly head, they have to face up to their problems.
“Know Thyself”
If self-confidence is believing in your ability and your judgment then it certainly requires that you know yourself. You have to be truthful about your strengths and weaknesses. Ungenuine self-confidence can only give you short-term success. Any feelings of unworthiness or inabiility to do something should be dealt with honestly so you can prepare for it or overcome it. You need more than self confidence to join “Who Wants to be a Millionaire,” you must be sure you have enough stock knowledge to be able to respond to some of the questions and make wise guesses to answer the rest.
How can you develop genuine self-confidence? We can learn from the words of the wise through the centuries.
“The only thing we need to fear is fear itself”
Fear can be a very powerful foe of self confidence. They are like chalk and cheese yet they’re both coming from within yourself. If there’s anything that your self confidence has to proceed through first, it has to be fear barring the door to keep you from doing something. This statement by ex US president Franklin D. Roosevelt was made during his inaugural speech} in 1933 at the worst moment of the Great Depression. It simply means that there isn’t anything to be afraid of. With genuine self-knowledge and courage as opposed to fear, you will be confident with your ideas and your actions.
“Be gentle with yourself”
This is an motivational line from the poem “Desiderata” which is finished meaningfully with the lines “Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.” Even if you have self-knowledge and bravery, you won’t be able to build self-confidence if you are harsh with yourself and demanding too much from yourself. Like any belief system, self-knowledge can't be imposed upon yourself. If the key word here is “build” or “develop”, and self-confidence must be deserved then you should be capable of feeling deserving.
Perhaps one of the hardest things to teach a person is self-confidence. This may be shocking but if you truly look at what self-confidence is and what it can do to a person, you will understand that some people may appear to have self-confidence but they don’t really have it. Other people are so good at faking that they have it that they seem to achieve the biggest of its promises - success. Sooner or later though, when their lack of self confidence rears its ugly head, they have to face up to their problems.
“Know Thyself”
If self-confidence is believing in your ability and your judgment then it certainly requires that you know yourself. You have to be truthful about your strengths and weaknesses. Ungenuine self-confidence can only give you short-term success. Any feelings of unworthiness or inabiility to do something should be dealt with honestly so you can prepare for it or overcome it. You need more than self confidence to join “Who Wants to be a Millionaire,” you must be sure you have enough stock knowledge to be able to respond to some of the questions and make wise guesses to answer the rest.
How can you develop genuine self-confidence? We can learn from the words of the wise through the centuries.
“The only thing we need to fear is fear itself”
Fear can be a very powerful foe of self confidence. They are like chalk and cheese yet they’re both coming from within yourself. If there’s anything that your self confidence has to proceed through first, it has to be fear barring the door to keep you from doing something. This statement by ex US president Franklin D. Roosevelt was made during his inaugural speech} in 1933 at the worst moment of the Great Depression. It simply means that there isn’t anything to be afraid of. With genuine self-knowledge and courage as opposed to fear, you will be confident with your ideas and your actions.
“Be gentle with yourself”
This is an motivational line from the poem “Desiderata” which is finished meaningfully with the lines “Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.” Even if you have self-knowledge and bravery, you won’t be able to build self-confidence if you are harsh with yourself and demanding too much from yourself. Like any belief system, self-knowledge can't be imposed upon yourself. If the key word here is “build” or “develop”, and self-confidence must be deserved then you should be capable of feeling deserving.
